Five Great Reasons To Declutter Your Makeup & Skincare Products

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Makeup and skincare products are not only fun; they also hold the potential to make you look and feel more attractive. It’s important to take care of your collection, and part of the process includes decluttering them from time to time. Here are five reasons to sort through and declutter your collection:

Reason #1: Potential Health Risks & Damage To Skin:

You might have heard that makeup and skincare products have a shelf life, so when they are past their expiration date or have gone bad, you could be putting yourself at minor health risks or damaging your skin if you are still using them.

You can follow the timelines in this post (coming soon) as a guide to determine when it’s time to toss expired items so that you don’t put yourself at risk. Even though I was once a skeptic about the expiration dates, I’ve come across a handful of clients who have proved me wrong.

I go into more detail in that timelines post (coming soon), but one of my clients had developed an eye infection from old mascara, another client had a slight rash on her face from using an expired moisturizer, and another developed Angular Chilitis (cracks on the corner of the mouth from bacteria) from using expired lipstick.

One of the things I think about is this… we put on nice moisturizers/serums to make our skin better for the future- how ironic if we were spending the time and energy (while using up expired products) to damage our skin instead. Skincare and makeup can get expensive, and sometimes we don’t want to throw out expired items because of loss aversion, but after a certain point, it’s better safe than sorry, whether we’re aware of the damage or not.

Reason #2: The Emotional Toll of Clutter:

There might be skincare products or makeup that you don’t use, have outgrown, or don’t  like taking up space in your bathroom. Why even have them there? These products are usually the insidious culprits that cause overcrowding, take up precious storage space, get in the way, hide the items that you do use or want to find, or you might have to constantly push them out of the way (or sift through them) to get to the items that you do love or use.

It just feels so much better to get those items out of the way and out of your space, so you don’t feel frantic, annoyed, or waste time looking for things.

Reason #3: It can end up costing you more:

This reason doesn’t apply to everyone, but more to people with a great excess of products. Say if you haven’t decluttered in a while and have a lot of items, you might not be able to to find what you’re looking for because it’s buried or hidden behind another item, and then you go by a replacement. As a result, you end up spending money on a duplicate you didn’t need to buy. Worst case scenario is that by the time you find the initial item you already had, it’s expired.

Another reason leading to buying duplicates is when you have too many items, it’s hard to remember what you have. Say you’re shopping, and you can’t remember if you do actually own a green eyeshadow, and buy it, only to come home and discover that there was already one in your makeup drawer.

If you declutter your excess items, it’s easier to find and remember what you have. This in turn, reduces the chance of having to buy duplicates or having older items expire.

Reason #4: You Owe It To Yourself To Get Ready In a Beautiful Space: 

A beautiful space doesn’t have to be luxurious or fancy, it just has to be clean and decluttered. It just feels so good to get ready in a clean and decluttered bathroom. Besides your bed, your bathroom is a pre-determined area that you spend time in both first thing in the morning when you’re getting ready for the day, and at the end of the night when you are getting ready for bed. If you have a clean, decluttered bathroom and spend the morning getting ready there, it can impact your mood for the rest of the day.

Imagine getting ready in a five star hotel bathroom- impeccably clean countertops, large vanity, plenty of counter space and no clutter- it feels really good right? And sets the tone for the rest of the day. Now imagine getting ready in a dirty, grimy, cluttered bathroom. It subtly impacts not just your day, but how you feel about yourself. The bathroom doesn’t have to be luxurious, per se, just clean and uncluttered and you will feel so different!

You can have great, expensive products, but if you have a lot of them, they cluster together and lose their luster. If you have just a select amount of those same products, it looks and feels nicer. Not having too many products makes your space more beautiful because there’s less visual clutter and you appreciate the items that you have more.

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Reason #5: Taking Feng Shui Into Account

According to Feng Shui principles, everything exudes energy. Items that you love or use regularly have positive energy. Items that are left unused/unwanted/unloved have a murky energy. Having that murky energy around you weighs you down. In a nutshell, getting rid of excess items that are just cluttering up your space basically takes a weight off of you.

It’s the little things that add up and can make a big difference. Decluttering your makeup and skincare products might not seem like much, but you might end up shedding a bag of items and clearing out some stuck energy in the process, which can directly impact other areas of your life.

I hope that this article motivates you to take a look at decluttering your products if it’s needed. Remember to follow the rule of thumb to only keep what you need, use, and love

What is Feng Shui and How Can I Benefit From It?

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What is Feng Shui?

Feng Shui is not a religion (which is a question that I am sometimes asked). It’s an ancient art form that suggests techniques to improve the natural flow of energy around you. The concept is that when you improve the flow of energy around you, it will positively affect your own personal energy. Feng Shui is an art based on a mix of ancient Eastern Philosophy, nature, science, and common sense.

To understand Feng Shui, we should first understand Chi: 

Chi is basically energy that affects us all- it can flow through a space smoothly, or it can move too fast, wreaking havoc, or it can move too slowly and become stagnant, in such places with a lot of clutter. When it moves smoothly at it’s optimum, it brings harmony to those it flows around.

Chi is constantly active, changing, and flowing, according to it’s environment. Just like life. The Chinese in fact, refer to it as our life force. Energy is very real- a basic component of our daily lives. It’s all around us, flowing through us. You can’t see energy, but you can certainly feel it. Think about when you’ve felt energy.

For example, when two people in a room are having a heated argument. You walk into the room, and even though they may not say anything about the argument, you can feel the tension in the air. The chi (energy) is thick and heavy. There’s even a saying for it, “That you can cut the tension with the knife.”

It’s also important to understand mankind’s relationship with nature: 

Back in our ancient days, and still in some cultures, humans were very in tune with nature, dependent on it, and very aware of how it affected us. We planned and redirected our nearly all of our activities to based on nature’s conditions.

As we became modernized, our dependence on nature decreased. We no longer needed the sun for light, because we developed artificial light. We built man-made reservoirs for water, having access to clean water even during times of severe drought. We have insulated homes with air conditioning and heaters to protect us from the elements. For example, there can be a snowstorm outside, but we could be inside, toasty and cozy, watching a movie.

Modern conveniences are amazing, but we’ve lost some of our reliance on nature, and sometimes we are out of harmony with the natural flow of chi. We still depend on nature at the core of our being, but we are surrounded by manmade buildings, manmade entertainment, and quite often surrounded by stuff that impedes a smooth flow of energy.

Just stand on the beach or in a forest and you can feel the difference where chi is unobstructed and flows smoothly. This is where Feng Shui comes in, because with specific placements, it optimizes the flow of chi in our direct man-made environments, allowing chi to flow unobstructed, just like in nature.

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How Feng Shui Works:

Feng Shui uses various techniques to organize your possessions, decor, and furniture in your home, so that chi can flow smoothly around your space. Chi should meander around your furniture for optimum flow- not be blocked, and not move too fast or too slow.

For example, if you have a lot of clutter on the floor in one area, Chi starts to slow down there. The chi can become murky or stagnant, and if that is in your relationship area, it can cause problems in your relationship.

An example of chi moving too fast is when you have a long straight hallway with nothing on the walls to make chi slow down. It shoots down the hallway quickly. If this is in your career section, things might feel chaotic at work.

Basic Feng Shui principles urge you to put the five basic elements of nature (Water, Fire, Metal, Earth, and Wood) in your home based on the most harmonious area and direction. Each element can also be symbolized by color and shape. It’s important to have a good balance of each element, so understanding the creative and destructive cycles are important. If you have all of the elements co-existing together, you have more harmony.

There is a bagua to guide you in placing the correct colors and elements in the corresponding areas of your house. This bagua was created with ancient scientific and philosophy based instructions on what elements will bring the most harmony from which direction, and what area of your life they correlate to. The bagua below is a western bagua. You can use it as a guide and overlay it over each room, or your entire home (When using the bagua, the career section should be over your main entryway. This would in turn make the Relationships corner the back right section of your room or home).

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Modern Science and Feng Shui:

It’s very interesting, because what quantum phycists are coming up with in recent years have been stated in Feng Shui for centuries. For example, certain colors and elements vibrate in different intensities, affecting our bodies. Psychologists have brought to light that clutter affects us cognitively. Scientists now say that certain colors will make us feel different emotions- happy, relaxed, angry. For example:

  • Too much red can make you angry.
  • Blue is calming; surrounding yourself with too much blue can make you sad.
  • Yellow and Red can increase your appetite.
  • Too much back can lead to negative emotions.

So How Can This Affect Me?

You can use Feng Shui principles to increase the daily experience and comfort in your home. You can also use the principles to increase the optimum experience and direction of your life.

Feng Shui isn’t a quick fix, or a one-time resolution for problems. But it helps you because when the energy around you is flowing smoothly and positively, you feel good, which directly impacts your own energy and life.

It’s kind of like the law of attraction. You think positive thoughts when you are in a happier place. Then you attract happier things to you. If you live in a positive and nourishing environment, you unlock more of the warmth in your heart, which spreads to those around you, who reciprocate that warmth in subtle and amazing ways.

Have fun with Feng Shui. Experiment with it, and see if it changes any aspects of your life. I’ve seen some great results with clients, and I hope you do too. It is an art, and as you refer to the basic principles, you can put your own touches in various places to make it the most beautiful to you.

 

 

 

 

My Client and Her Self Storage Story

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I worked with a wonderful woman with a big heart, and she asked me to anonymously tell her story in hopes that it might affect someone else’s life. Before I delve into my recap of her situation, I want to share some Self-Storage Industry statistics with you… 

First, did you know that consumers spent a combined total of $29 BILLION dollars on self storage in 2016? (IBISWorld)

Some other interesting facts, ordered by year: 

  • In 2009, there were 58,000 storage facilities worldwide, and 46,000 of those were located in the U.S… At that point, it was a 6.6 billion dollar industry (Wikipedia). 
  • By 2013, the self storage industry had 24 billion dollars in revenue (Self Storage Associates). 
  • In 2014, the self storage industry had 27.2 billion dollars in revenue (US Census data).
  • By 2018, IBISWorld predicts that self storage will be a $30.5 billion dollar industry. 

 

Now onto my client’s story: 

One evening, a woman in her late 20’s called me. She explained that her and her siblings were worried about their mother, who was struggling to afford her apartment in conjunction with having to pay for her two off-site self storage facilities.

The woman explained to me that she felt the storage units were a waste of money. Each unit broke down to $268 per month. In total, her mother was paying $6,432 per year to house her excess items. She didn’t feel that there was anything of value in either unit, but her mother felt differently. She asked me for a package deal to come help. I was intrigued, but requested to talk to her mother to get her permission first.

For anonymity, I’ve changed her name, but let’s call her mother Cindy. I called Cindy, and she reluctantly agreed to meet with me. We met at the storage unit, and she showed me with pride what was inside. I questioned her about each of the items- there were some statues, party supplies, trinkets, adult and baby clothes, a vintage wedding gown, lots of pens and office supplies, lamps, electronics, and home decorations.

She clearly loved her two statues, but she couldn’t think of a place in her apartment that they would look good. Hence, she explained that she had to keep them in storage. The other items, were for “someday” use.

We added up the retail cost of the items. A lot of the items still had sales tags on them, so that was pretty time-consuming, but easy. It turned out that the cost that she had paid for all of the items equaled three months of rent for that one storage unit. She frowned when she saw the total. We started talking about if the cost was worth it (everything but the statues and vintage wedding dress could be easily accessible at a low cost- a cost lower than the storage unit itself over the course of a year).

Then we talked about when she would realistically use them. There were a lot of “what ifs”, but no concrete dates for parties, new home decorating, office supply usage.

We talked about how she could better use the money. The cost of this particular storage unit was approximately $3,216 per year. Both storage units were costing her $6,432 per year. If she had $6,432 to spend on anything in her pocket right now, what would it be on? She wasn’t sure- Shopping? Rent? 

She had kept mentioning her grandson, talking about him with love. We came up with an idea- what if she opened a savings account, and helped toward his tuition with the $6,432. Even with condensing the two units and just getting rid of one, we could save $3,216 per year. Over the course of five years, she would have $16,080. By the time her grandson was 18 years old, she would have $51,456 plus interest.

As we talked about it, her eyes lit up at the prospect of helping her grandson so much. We talked about how $268 didn’t seem like much, but over the course of time, the figure was pretty incredible. It wouldn’t hurt to try, so she agreed to try her best to condense two units into one.

There were two factors for her still holding her back (which we figured out at a coffee shop down the street), and addressed before we started. The first factor was common- this excess stuff was filling a void of being needed. She would come to the storage facility at least twice a week to take care of the stuff- organize it, clean it, sort it. Her three children were grown up, married, had their own lives, and a part of her wanted to feel needed. A lot of people fill their voids with possessions, and this is a common reason some of us accumulate clutter.

The second factor was that she had paid good money for the items, cared for them, and had become emotionally attached to them. Therefore, she didn’t want to donate the items, because she didn’t know where the items were going- whether they would be useful, appreciated, and taken care of. This is also a common reason to hold onto clutter.

For reason number one, we decided that even though this was filling a void of being needed, she could be so much more useful somewhere else with her big heart. Volunteering locally and forming new connections in the process might be a better way to be needed and give back to the community. Also, the storage facilities were causing a rift between her and her children. If she let at least one go, her relationship with her children might improve.

For reason number two, she told me that she wanted to make sure that these items were being put to good use, and if she could see that she was helping someone in the process, she would be willing to part with them. This was more important to her than selling the items. But she needed to see this happen before she let go. We decided on an unconventional method- that instead of donating the items, we would sell some items, and give the rest away personally.

We met several days later and went through each item in her storage unit. I would hand each item to her and we would discuss each item and then put it into their designated piles: Sell, Giveaway, Keep, Trash. We would look at each item as I questioned the history, her attachment level, the necessity, the possibility of future use, and if the item contributed to her happiness.

At the beginning of the day, it was a bit emotional, and I felt her pain as she was struggling with letting go of things. When I help a client, I take on their items as if they were my own as well, and go through the letting go process with them, and it’s not easy at times. This way, I can see the item through their eyes and assign a value to the item, while still keeping an objective eye, because I am never fully them.

By the afternoon, we had picked up a second wind, and she was letting go of items that she didn’t need or plan to use again with relative ease in waves, then it would get difficult again. After we had gone through every item, we went through all of the Keep items again- more went into the Giveaway pile. After one full 12 hour day of going through her storage unit, one item at a time, we had a small Sell pile, large Giveaway pile, medium Keep pile, and a small Trash pile.

We stared at the piles with the light that was illuminating the storage area. The outside had gotten dark already. I pulled my car up, and we loaded up my trunk and backseats to the brim with the giveaway pile. Tomorrow, we were going to meet to drive around and give the items away.

I met her at her apartment the next day around 11am. Before getting in the car, she took a peek through the pile. Some items she laughed at keeping for so long, but other items made her uneasy, and she insisted on taking six items into her apartment. They were her things, so I agreed, and just to guide her, asked her about each item and what the value was to her, and what she was planning on using them for. She put one item back in the car, and took the rest into her apartment.

Unconventional, I know, but we went to a neighborhood in East LA that she used to live in decades ago. If people were in their yards, we would pull over and introduce ourselves. Once a conversation was started, we would ask them if there was anything that they could use that we might have. One woman was happy to take the baby clothes off of our hands and introduced us to her baby daughter, who would wear them. Cindy’s eyes sparkled at the thought of a good and useful home for the clothes. It was so much better than them sitting in the storage unit.

A man took a blender off our our hands, another woman took some picture frames for her apartment. Toward the end of the day, a family took our party supplies- unopened cups, boxed plastic cutlery, paper plates, streamers, and balloons. We stopped by a small tax firm and asked if they wanted office supplies. They were surprised at first, but took them happily- the owner, a man came out and thanked us, shaking our hands and giving her a hug. She teared up in the car. I kind of did as well.

By the early evening, we were exhausted and happy, and took the remaining items (which only filled up 1/4 of my trunk to Goodwill) before heading back to her apartment. As Cindy invited me in and made coffee, I made a list of All The People You Made Happy Today, and wrote out the people we gave stuff to and what we gave out on the lined paper according to a combination of the notes on my phone and my memory.

We drank our coffees, tired, happy, and recounting the day. I know that I’ve mentioned it a couple of times, but she has such a big heart, and was so happy with the outcome. We talked about her stuff having a good home, and in hindsight, she reasoned as she went down the list, that she wouldn’t actually be using the majority of the items that she gave away. We talked about how we have a tendency to save things for “someday”, but in many instances,  “someday” rarely comes.

Just a note that we were careful not to unload our clutter on everyone else- we had agreed early in the morning that we would talk to them, and give away a little at a time, based on what they could actually use. Furthermore, we used our due diligence at all times, and kept alert of our safety throughout the day. It was an adventure outside of the box, and a fulfilling one at that.

The next week, we met at her other storage unit and went through a very similar process, spending one full day going through her possessions, and then meeting at 8am the next day to give away possessions- this time near the shopping district in downtown LA. Again, we exercised due diligence in regards to safety all day and went on another adventure.

We stopped by a women’s shelter, because this unit had several boxes of women’s clothes that she had no need for. We had kitchen gadgets, more party supplies, dvd’s, shoes, home decor, jackets, blankets, and vinyls. We gave the jackets and blankets to a homeless man who threw them all on his cart, promising to give the extras to some people he knew who could definitely use them. We stopped in Hollywood at a record shop and sold most of the vinyls. We ended up making two additional trips back to the storage unit because we couldn’t fit all the Giveaway items, then at the end of the day, we gave the remaining items (which filled up half of my trunk) to the Salvation Army.

The following day, we condensed her things into one unit. It took us six days to clear out one storage unit, but over the course of one year, she would save $3,216. Over the course of five years, she would save $16,080. And all the things we gave away were items carefully sorted through and double checked, to make sure that they didn’t actually add value to her life anymore. The savings account has been opened, and last month, she put her first $268 in there. Her children were so happy, they invited the both of us to dinner to celebrate. The best part is that Cindy felt like there was a huge load off of her (literally, there was).

Hopefully, we brightened some other people’s days in the process, even in just the exchange of kindness. Cindy was so proud of herself, as she should be, since letting go is rarely easy. We agreed we would leave it this way for now, and I would follow up with her in 3 months to see if she wants to try the same with her existing unit, or if we could try to downsize it to a smaller unit. I will update you if it happens, and do a part 2 of this story.

Thank you for reading about this experience. 

If you have a friend or family member, or if you yourself have a storage unit, determine the cost over the course of a year, and if everything in the storage unit is worth it. If you rarely see the items, or if you won’t actually use them in the foreseeable future, consider going through the process of decluttering.

Even if it’s in our homes, or off-site, I’m a firm believer that excess items that aren’t used, needed, or loved can weigh on us- whether it be financially, emotionally, or or time-wise.

There’s a theory in Feng Shui that everything that you own is attached to you by a string. The more stuff that you have, the more the strings get tangled and muddled, blocking new opportunities from coming into your life. Consider clearing out the excess to make room for new opportunities to flow into your life.

 

What Exactly is Minimalism?

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Minimalism is an age-old concept that’s gained more popularity in recent years- it challenges what has become the way of our lives, where the vast majority of us own an excess of stuff. Our modern day society is set up so that marketing is everywhere, and reaching new heights such as contextual advertising (the ads that are tailored to you online). And now, more than ever, we have an array of choices and convenience. In this era, it’s easy to indulge in owning excess possessions.

And that’s where minimalism comes in as an inspiration, especially when it comes to dealing with decluttering. But with the emerging popularity on the term ‘minimalism’, there seems to be a lot of confusion on what minimalism truly is. Just to clarify, there are essentially two concepts of minimalism. There is true minimalism and the modern day concept of minimalism:

True Minimalism

The actual definition of true minimalism is to only own what you actually NEED to survive. That means no smartphone, no computer, no shoes- only the absolute necessities required for survival.

A great example of a true minimalist is Mahatma Gandhi. At the time of his passing, he owned eleven items, two of which included his eyeglasses and a spoon. His final possessions are proudly on display at his last residence in New Delhi, India.

All of Gandhi's Posessions at his time of passing.

All of Gandhi’s Posessions at his time of passing.

There are certain cultures where true minimalism still exists around the world, and with pride. Throughout all of my travels, I saw this concept being carried out the most in India. There were men that owned nothing but a bowl and a straw mat, sitting on the street on the principle of minimalism.

In Thailand, there are monks who are also true minimalists. One was kind enough to explain to me that he only owned an orange robe, prayer beads, a needle and thread, a razor, and a bowl. In certain parts of the world, it still works, is truly appreciated, and is fully carried out, often for a lifetime.

Monk's Robes Hanging in the Sun

Monk’s Robes Hanging Outside of a Monastery

Being a true minimalist takes a lot of self discipline and dedication. But just imagine if you saw a true minimalist here… a man sitting on a straw mat with no possessions, except for the absolute necessities? A lot of cultures are curious about the concept, but not very tolerant of the actual ideal. What would you think of him? How would you treat him?

So true minimalists are rare in our modern society. The way we have evolved, we technically don’t need certain things, but to keep up with the rest of society and to function as efficiently as others, we have them. For example, a computer, an internet modem, a smartphone. You don’t need them to live, but nowadays, you do need them to thrive.

I don’t know if it’s a good or a bad thing- in fact, I could argue both ways. Regardless, it’s become counterintuitive in our age to be a true minimalist and still live in peace and balance with the rest of society. But taking the concept of true minimalism and applying it as an inspirational concept to shed the excess from our lives is incredibly beneficial in aiding to decluttering. Which leads us to…

The Modern-Day Concept of Minimalism:

If you google minimalism, tons of articles and blogs come up. Most are referencing the modern-day concept of minimalism, which draws from the principles of true minimalism, but puts it into a modern-day perspective. Modern day minimalism is very subjective, because it’s up to each individual to strip what they don’t think that they need from their lives.

The fact that the concept is gaining so much popularity indicates something. It’s kind of a realization, a revolution if you will, that people want to reclaim their lives from material possessions to focus on life more, the intangibles, the experiences, and they are taking an interest in stripping the excess items from their lives.

My Thoughts on Minimalism:

I think that minimalism is inspirational and something to draw from when evaluating our own lives and our own relationships with stuff. For example, people are sometimes so afraid of getting rid of things, but true minimalists have showed us that we we can live with the most minute of possessions and still be alive.

But it’s important to have a balance and not to go overboard. Stuff does have a place in our lives, owning our own things help us to be self-reliant, and certain possessions that aren’t necessities can make us happy and our lives more comfortable.

The key is to only keep what you truly need, love, and use. Anything else counts as clutter, so let it go. After the excess is decluttered from your life, you can focus on the more precious gifts in life- health, new experiences, family, and friends. None of which are tangible possessions 🙂

My Journey With Decluttering

When I was a child, I remember being in Japan, spending the night at my grandmother’s house. My Japanese grandmother was the epitome of zen living. We slept on traditional Japanese mattresses (the type that you would put out every night, and fold up and neatly put away into the closet every morning). So during the day, the bedroom was nearly empty and there was plenty of room to play.

Imagine my bedroom during the day: a wood-woven traditional tatami mat floor, beautiful textured grayish-beige walls with a hint of glitter to them, some traditional dolls displayed on one side of the room that had a platform built onto the floor along the wall, a television in one corner, and a vanity stand with a mirror in the other corner.

The room had only the necessities, but was somehow decorated so nicely and was so comfortable. I would lay on the floor (tatami floors are incredibly comfortable) and watch tv, or run around the room and play and never have to worry about running into anything or tripping on anything. It was pretty awesome.

If I was going to play with my toys, I was gently instructed to pick them up and put them away when I was done. There was a closet at the end of the room with sliding white paper doors that hid all of my toys. The room was pure Japanese zen and I remember it fondly.

Fast forward to my teenage years. My room was pretty much always messy. I kept it relatively organized, but is it a normal thing for a teenager to have clothes strewn about the floor? Because I certainly did. My dad has always been clean, neat, and organized, so the rule was that I would not mess up any of the house except for my room- I could do whatever I wanted with it.

Now onto my college years, where I lived alone in a tiny studio apartment. I kept it clean, but my best friend at the time loved to shop (and she still does). That bug was contagious, and since we couldn’t afford much as college students, we’d go shopping to stores like Ross and Marshalls. We’d buy stuff on clearance- mostly home decor because we both had our own apartments. But the problem was that I had accumulated a lot for my little studio. I liked the things that I had bought, but didn’t love most of it. Things never ended up on the floor, but I had started to over-accumulate things that I didn’t need. I didn’t realize the effect of clutter at the time (anything that you don’t really love, need, or use), so I didn’t know why, but this apartment that I had once loved so much had begun to feel stuffy, and I eventually moved.

Fast forward to my early-twenties, and I was working hard and assertively moving up in the corporate environment. I had a spacious new apartment, so I started studying interior decorating to learn how to make it look great- the type of place that I wanted to come home to. That’s when I stumbled onto the concept of Feng Shui and eliminating clutter.

With so many hours spent working, I didn’t have much time to shop, and started buying less things, but of better quality- stuff that I really liked. I still had my decor from college (I’d moved it from place to place between several moves), and I donated most of those items, as well as bags and bags of clothes that I no longer wore, and sold other things that were salable on Craigslist and eBay.

Within a couple of years of living there, I was surfing everyday, and decided to move to the beach. The places were much smaller and older, but I liked the vibe there. I picked the neighborhood that I wanted to live in and eventually found a unit that was in my price range.

The new apartment was about 1/3 of the size of my current unit. I ended up donating and selling more what I could part with, and it was the first time that I had a hard time with decluttering. Even though I didn’t need or necessarily love the stuff, it was hard to part with because of the memories associated with it, or the fact that maybe these things could be useful one day. After agonizing indecision, I sold and donated quite a bit of stuff, and carried the rest with me.

I had downsized so considerably, but my new apartment felt like it was too full of stuff. I read every book available about decluttering and Feng Shui to motivate me. I got really into it- my friends made fun of me for constantly decluttering. I grew up knowing quite a bit about a similar concept from my grandmother, but had never completely utilized it in my own living spaces.

Over the course of one year, I got rid of a lot of stuff. I sold my comfortable couch because it was too big for the living room and bought a new one I loved even more, was high quality, and fit the room better. I started realizing that memories don’t just reside in things, but in our minds, so there’s no need to keep multiple items from different time periods. I started realizing the importance of home and being comfortable in it. I did everything that I could to declutter and incorporate feng shui principles, mainly to see if the result was worth it.

I re-painted my living room a beautiful shade of light grey, with a charcoal accent wall. I got rid of every piece of clutter in the room, and filled it only with my couch and coffee table with two floor lamps on each side, a basket to hold my books, my tv and tv stand, and placed two beautiful lanterns from Pottery Barn near the entryway.

Then I let go of all items that I didn’t use, love, or need in my bedroom, leaving only my bed, two nightstands, my desk and chair, and some accessories. I carefully placed all the colors and elements in both rooms according to Feng Shui. I created my perfect living situation, a sanctuary that I had designed myself. And I loved the result!

I didn’t have much, but I didn’t miss anything that I had gotten rid of. Everything that was in my apartment felt like quality and it felt good being at home. I ended up spending more time at home in comfort and peace, and saved money because I wasn’t going out as much. I saved by cooking dinner at home and inviting friends over for bbq’s. I prioritized spending time with my dog or surfing. For the first time in my adult life, I was incredibly comfortable and happy with my apartment.

I don’t know if it was coincidental, or attributed to my Feng Shui changes, but life was really good. New opportunities flowed in, sales were great at work, and even with long work hours, I felt like I had a lot of time to enjoy myself.

Then, I got the idea to go on an around-the-world trip. And that’s when the biggest challenge began. I didn’t just have to get rid of everything that I didn’t really love or use, but nearly everything I had accumulated over my lifetime. I gave myself the goal of keeping only three medium-sized boxes of my possessions. I allocated myself three boxes because storage was expensive and I could use that money toward my travels, and I could also use the profits from selling that additional stuff to help pay for the trip.

It doesn’t sound that hard on paper, but imagine getting rid of nearly everything that you own. Everything that you worked hard to accumulate, and a lot of the clothes that fit well and the things that you prize. It was difficult. I started two years before I left for the trip, and while working full time and long hours in medical device sales, I would come home and start listing things on eBay and Craigslist. I even had a small shipping station at my desk. Toward the end, I began giving things away to family and friends and donating. But it never got easier, it got harder as I got down to the things that I absolutely loved.

And I did it. I made a lot of money by selling nearly everything that I owned. It took a lot of time and effort, but it helped pay for half of my trip. And I sold my stuff to a lot of good people, made new friends.

Did I miss anything? I was curious to see if I would. Out of the hundreds of things that I sold, I only missed one thing one time- it sounds silly, but it was a red clutch that would’ve gone perfectly with a dress that I kept. That’s pretty good- one thing out of hundreds of things. It goes to show how much we can accumulate in excess without realizing it. It was a big eye-opener for me.

I ended up traveling and living overseas for four years with belongings that could fit into one large bag. But I always had everything I needed- plenty of cute outfits, clean clothes, nice accessories, and toiletries to keep me feeling well taken care of. I took better care of my things because I had less and always felt like I had more than enough. What a difference from my college years!

And now I’m back in Los Angeles. It was honestly so fun to go through my boxes of stuff when I came back, and what a small feat, but it felt good to have those things again. It’s a luxury to have things that are yours and that bring back memories. I’m not sure if I appreciated those things enough while I was amply surrounded by my own stuff- maybe I did, I’m not sure. But it took four years of being away to so keenly tune into the feeling of comfort that those things brought me, and I realized the importance of having stuff that you own and love.

From now on, every place that I live will incorporate decluttering and feng shui principles, and I’ll only keep and buy what I really love. I’m hoping that combined with hard work and ambition in other aspects of life, that I can be as happy as those days at my beach house again.

 

 

I have five points to this whole post (other than to inform you about my journey of decluttering):

  1. Don’t be afraid to get rid of things that you don’t need or love, because you probably won’t miss it. Especially if it’s easily replaceable. I was really curious about this, and ended up being my own experiment.
  2. We need very little to be happy, presentable, and comfortable.
  3. It’s going to take hard work to declutter the things you don’t need out of your life. It’s a process, but the results are well worth it.
  4. Utilizing the techniques of decluttering and Feng Shui in your environment really do change your life. Even with the adventures of my around-the-world trip, those years in my beach house where I had a sanctuary to return to were hands down the best years of my life.
  5. Stuff isn’t bad. Having stuff that you love is actually important. It kind of adds to your identity, and it’s human nature to want to feel a sense of ownership. The key is deciding what it is that you like vs. love and what you want vs. need to keep the clutter out of your life.